Wednesday, 9 January 2008

Mavis Ruby

Home briefly today - my dear Grandma passed away on Saturday morning and today we say goodbye.

Where do you possibily begin to put into words the reflection of more than forty years of loving your Grandma.
I was brought home from hospital to Grandma and Grandad’s house and for all of the time until their moving into Beauaraba Lodge I spent many days and hours in their home, Meldon Park, Pine View and Donovan Street. Each home different but always the same love and care shown there.
Sundays after church for lunch and then the afternoon with Dad helping in the dairy so that, at least one afternoon a week Grandma didn’t have to. I loved holidays with Grandma too, with little competitions that lasted for the time of the visit with of course me always being the winner in the final total. Wogs and quoits always on the list of things to do. Chips for the wood stove, eggs to gather, the dairy to visit, cows to feed, always things to do that were different from the farm where I lived.
Grandma singing, yodelling and of course whistling - so very Grandma. Her love of music always shining through and her interest and enjoyment of my music was always so evident.
I think Grandma must have been the Queen of fiddling with little bits and pieces and the creations that we were given, forever to be treasured. Golliwogs, little baby dolls dressed beautifully lying in little cradles carefully painted and decorated with lace and little satin bed clothes. Even a couple of outfits for “Barbie”. I have only recently remembered too, the beautiful little scrap pictures Grandma had and the books that they were pasted into. Of course in later years, the beautiful crochet rugs for her Great Grandchildren are more treasures for another generation to hold dear forever.
Through all her illness, her years of hard work and making do she was the loving, kind and generous Grandma any person could wish for. Never complaining, always kind and patient, these qualities have continued to be my Grandma even in these final years of her life.
The journey of grief in the gradual loss of my Grandma has been a long one. With the many stages of her dementia, I have felt the loss for so many years. But, just one smile in the past few weeks reassures me that deep inside our beautiful Mavis Ruby remained even just a small part of the Grandma I have known and loved for more than forty years.
Always there, forever in my heart and my memory, my Grandma – Mavis Ruby.

5 comments:

Pat said...

I am so very sorry for your loss. I was very close to my Nannie too. Not a day goes by that I don't miss her. Remember those good times and one day those tears will turn to smiles with fond memories. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.

de vliegende koe said...

Dear Leisa, I’m so sorry for your loss. I have very special memories of my Grandmother too. She was very creative and a wonderful inspiration. I have a lot of lovely moments to remember.
Take care!

Leanne said...

Dear Leisa, My thoughts are with you at this sad time I love this poem so I am sending it to you with special wishes.
XX
Leanne
Do not stand at my grave and weep,
I am not there, I do not sleep.

I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glint on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.

When you wake in the morning hush,
I am the swift, uplifting rush
of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft starlight at night.

Do not stand at my grave and weep.
I am not there, I do not sleep.
Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there, I did not die!
Mary Frye(1932)

Angela Louise said...

Dear Leisa, I'm so sorry to hear about your Grandma. What a beautiful person she must have been and what beautiful words you have written about her.She would have been very proud of you also, I'm sure. It is so terrible to see your beloved Grandma go through dementia but now she is at peace in heaven. My Grandma spent her last 10 years suffering from Parkinson's. To this day it is the memory of my gentle, loving dear Grandma that I spent holidays with that stays with me most not her last years.Such wonderful people our Grandmas.
My thoughts are with you, Angela.

Felicia said...

I am sorry for your loss and will send positive thoughts your way. She sounds like an amazing person.